What to do When Feeling Stuck

The feeling of being stuck-ahhhh; we've all been there. It's one of the worst feelings knowing we're not where we want to be, but have no idea where to go from there. Let me tell you, I've been there a few times in my life. It was during the years 2020 and 2021 that I felt the most peace I had ever experienced in my life. I was incredibly in touch with my spirituality and my soul. There was a time in 2021 when I allowed someone to cross a boundary I shouldn't have. It went like this: high school boy breaks up with girl (me) because a) he was a player and b) didn't feel the same feelings I felt for him. I let him lead me on, and get this, even allowed him to come back to me if he felt like he wanted to when he got to college. Imagine that??? I know there's many people out there just like me, who allowed their first infatuation (or first love) to disrespect them. It's a learning experience.

After that period, I was truly heartbroken. I look back now and realize I wasn't mourning losing him as much. I was mourning the fact that I worked so hard to build up the highest version of myself I'd seen so far, and I let boundaries be crossed that I didn't think I ever would allow. In the end, I ultimately disrespected myself. This was upsetting to think I worked so hard for it to just disappear. It, meaning me.

It's taken me two years to get back to my roots and rebuild myself again, after feeling stuck and lost for so long. Yes, two years. I started this self care blog to hold myself accountable and not allow myself to come up with excuses. I also wanted to teach others, like you, that it's possible no matter where you are in life to get back to yourself. If you haven't found yourself yet, it's possible to start at any point of your life and figure out who you are. It's worth it. Yes I promise, all the hard work of holding yourself accountable and not letting yourself slip, is worth it. It can be exhausting and frustrating, and often you'll feel like you want to give up in the first few weeks. But, don't.

Ask yourself this: Has anyone I look up to got themselves to where they are today without lots of hard work and dedication? The answer 99% of the time will be: no way josé!

I know you're thinking, ok, I've read hundreds of pages of content on instagram, and thousands of videos on tiktok, and they all say the same thing. They recommend I start doing new things and yada yada yada.

WHY do you think so? In order to grow into a new version of yourself, you have to give up the past, and leave behind your throne in "comfort" land. I promise it's much better over here in the land of "get your sh** together"!

If you truly want to get to know yourself, give up toxic habits, stop feeling sorry for yourself, and not feel stuck anymore, listen to these 3 tips. And don't just listen. All that content on social media saying the same thing is real, you just have to want it, and believe that you can accomplish it!

I do these 3 things every time I reach a stuck period in life:

1. Get organized

Staying in a cluttered, messy room and house is not an essential environment for us to grow in. Start small everyday by cleaning a new section of your room/house. Once that task is complete, move on to staying organized. You can do this by writing yourself a to-do list (whether that's on sticky notes or in a planner), setting reminders on your phone, waking up to an alarm everyday, and keeping knick knacks organized. Another good practice is putting your laundry away the second it comes out of the dryer, and not letting it pile on your bed.

2. Start a daily journal

This is one of my favorite things to do. Why? Journaling helps us reach inside to the deep parts of us (the parts we bury down, our shadow selves, etc.) It helps us pin point how we're feeling, what we hope for, what we need to change, and finding out our true dreams and aspirations for the future. You might be feeling stuck because you don't even know what you're feeling!

3. Spend time doing more of what you love

If you stopped doing things you loved, you stopped watering the main plant. YOU are the main plant that constantly needs watering. As we all know, if you go long periods of time without watering plants, they wilt up and die. So, if you go periods of not watering yourself, you'll wilt up and stay stuck.

The only person who can water again is you; pick. up. the. can. It's important to find hobbies that bring you joy and help you reconnect back to yourself. This is key to keeping yourself, happy, energized and fufilled! If you don't know what hobbies you like, don't stop trying until you find them!

Remember: You are the greatest project you will ever work on!