Stop Telling Yourself These Lies: How Your Words Manifest

Self-talk is the ongoing conversation we have with ourselves throughout the day. It influences our actions, and ultimately impacts our overall well-being. Unfortunately, most of us can say we've engaged in negative self-talk, and we may not even realize it till later on when we're reflecting. The words we use and the beliefs we hold can create a self-fulfilling prophecy, manifesting the very thing we fear or doubt. Our minds are powerful, and what we feed it, it usually ends up believing.

Here are some common lies we tell ourselves and how they can affect our lives:

1. "I'm not good enough."

This belief can be particularly damaging because it's often rooted in fear of failure or rejection. The problem is that if we believe we're not good enough, we may not even try to achieve our goals. It can be 10x harder to actually get there, because subconciously we're not allowing ourselves to achieve them. We may also downplay our successes, telling ourselves that we got lucky or that it wasn't a big deal. The truth is, we are all capable of sucess, and we shouldn't let our fears hold us back.

2. "I'll never be able to do it."

Similar to the first lie, this one is often rooted in fear. It's easy to feel overwhelmed by a new challenge or task and convince ourselves that we'll never be able to do it. The problem is that if we never try, we'll never know what we're capable of and in turn, never accomplish anything. It's important to break big tasks down into smaller, more manageable steps and to celebrate each small victory along the way. By doing so, we can make things seem easier to accomplish.

3. "I don't have time."

We're all busy, and it's easy to use that as an excuse for not taking care of ourselves. The truth is, though, that self-care is essential for our well-being, and we need to make time for it. Even just a few minutes of self-care a day can make a big difference in our overall mood and energy levels.

4. "I'm not like them."

Comparing ourselves to others is very common; everyone does it.The problem is, we're all unique, and we all have our own strengths and weaknesses. Instead of comparing ourselves to others, we should focus on our own journey and celebrate our own successes. Everyone is different, which is why each one of us are special in our own ways!

5. "I'll be happy when..."

This lie is particularly harmful because it suggests to our minds that happiness is something that can only be achieved in the future. It makes us believe that this moment we're in right now, isn't one to be worth celebrating. The truth is, though, that happiness is a state of mind, and we can choose to be happy right now. Instead of waiting for some future event to make us happy, we should focus on the present and find joy in the small moments. It's important to remember that everday we wake up alive is a new chance for endless things to celebrate and be happy about. It can be as simple as walking to class and seeing a cherry blossom tree had finally bloomed, which put a smile on your face. That should remind you really how beautiful life is.

Ultimately, the lies we tell ourselves can have a profound impact on our lives. By becoming aware of our self-talk and actively replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, we can improve our overall well-being and achieve our goals. Remember, you are capable of greatness, and you deserve to treat yourself with compassion. You are amazing!